Thursday, May 14, 2015

Recovering from Bad Choices

Recovering from Bad Choices by Cara Correnti

This message is for all the women and girls who have felt pressured by someone to do something that they didn't really want to do.  You felt pressured, and you didn't know exactly how to say, "No!".  You felt pressured, and so you talked yourself into thinking that maybe you DID want to do it.  You went for it, but after it was over you thought, "I really did NOT want to do that after all!" and you feel completely and utterly terrible!  "Why did I have to be so weak?" you say.  "God, I am such a slut!" you scream.  This is the moment your self-esteem takes a major blow, but hold on a minute, there's something you should know!  Just because you made a mistake,  DO NOT beat yourself up over it!  Love yourself, respect yourself, forgive yourself - NO MATTER WHAT!  Don't allow a regrettable experience give birth to self-hatred. Because once self-hatred is born, you start to lose your self-respect.  Once you lose your self-respect, you'll end up in even more situations where you do things that you 'didn't really want to do'.  After a while, it doesn't really matter whether you wanted to do them or not, because you start to think, "Screw it, it's all the same, and I'm used to it by now." You end up continually putting yourself in dangerous situations and abusing your body because you 'obviously deserve it'. Listen to me, you don't deserve it!  No woman or girl deserves to feel used-up, depressed, and hopeless!  We've ALL made mistakes!  Some of us have made one or two, and some of us have made a hundred!  But no matter who you are or how many mistakes you've made, please remember these five things: 


Human's are prone to make mistakes, in fact, it's a natural part of life. If we didn't make mistakes, we wouldn't learn anything, and therefore we would never evolve.  There would be absolutely no room for growth, and we would all be pretty freakin' dull. Please realize that every single living creature has made some sort of mistake at one point, and you're not the only one - not even close!  Instead of beating yourself up, try to think of what you can learn from your mistake(s) and how you can grow into a better, wiser, more rounded person.


Even if you're super hard on yourself, and you feel like mistakes are just NOT acceptable, you still need to forgive yourself.  If you don't forgive yourself, the unforgiveness will eat you alive!  Holding onto guilt will not only have a horrible effect on your emotional and mental health, but it will take a major toll on your physical health as well.  Not forgiving yourself could quite possibly be the biggest and worst mistake possible, so just let it go!  It's time to give yourself a second chance.  You WON'T regret it.


Maybe you've forgiven yourself, and it's made a huge difference, but there's still way more to your story!  Your life is out of control, and you feel like you're just too far gone.  You have health problems, you're on too much medication, you have been divorced 3 times, you can barely support your kids with your dead-end job... but wait, don't give up!  There's always a way that you can start over, and there's always hope for a better life!  It's all about where your mind is at.  If you make an attempt to think and live in a more positive way, and you quit giving into negativity, your life will definitely turn around for the better. Just give it a try, what do you have to lose?


Now that you're a new person, it's time to start thinking of yourself in a different way.  You have to completely change your perspective.  Picture yourself as a princess!  You are royalty, baby!  Not only do you require respect, you deserve to be worshiped!  If anyone is foolish enough to mistreat you even in the slightest, they are forever banished from your kingdom - with NO exceptions!  In other words, find someone that treats you right, find someone who adores you!  But before you find the right one, you need to be able to love and take care of yourself first!  It really is true that you can't give love, and you can't receive love, until you love yourself.


Last but not least, you need to recognize that the only thing that even comes close to being more important than loving yourself is your ability to make choices!  Now that you're living a more positive life as a new person, you should absolutely cherish and protect your freedom to make choices.  And remember, they are YOUR choices and no one else's!  Never again will you allow someone to manipulate you.  You're way too strong of a woman to let some fool try to pressure you! You've been there, done that, and learned from your past mistakes (see this is where those mistakes come in handy!) You're a new woman now, a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman that deserves nothing but the best that this world has to offer and NEVER FORGET THAT!